That short but upsetting article by Molly over at First the Egg is worth a read.
Rape trigger warning. (I initially misspelled that “rage trigger warning”– probably also appropriate?)
Some day, some therapist will maybe start to understand me a little better when they learn that a big part of my self-loathing and my complicated relationship with femininity is due to the fact that, despite my being a small, femme woman, in most of the sexual traumas of my life I have been in at least some way the aggressor. Maybe one day I’ll be able to write about all of that properly, maturely, some day when it’s finally behind me.